The Lovers is your Self.
Most of us look at what we consider our available options to be, rather than going deeply and asking ourselves what we actually want, need, could do or be if we decided upon it and made our way toward it.
If we manage to get an idea about what we want and need we tend to immediately recriminate ourselves: That’s not possible. I can’t do that. I can’t have that. It’s not available. I have to do this. I have to focus on this. I have to acquire that.
We believe in the rules and morals and requirements of society, family, and ‘tribe’. There is nothing wrong with this, in fact, there is a survival necessity to instilling us with these beliefs and limits. But, innovation is impossible without breaking these rules/beliefs down.
In our contemporary culture and family structures, we are inundated with deeply negative beliefs about ourselves, with destructive rules and limits. We are delivered sermon upon sermon about our inadequacy in the face of all these lovely products and lifestyles we should buy. Buy with money or buy with fear and self-hatred, either way.
Even those of us who tend to follow along with the great mysteries of the ‘numinous’, even those of us who chase down our dreams and actualize our passions, we still do the above recriminating on some level or even constantly in our dwelling and doubting. So . . . this exercise is for everyone.
Listen to how often you tell yourself that your options or access is limited. Listen to how often you tell yourself you are not this or that thing that you would like to be or think you should be. At first, just notice. After you realize how much you do this, how much you are limiting yourself, apply these questions to any limit:
- Is it true?
- How Do I know it is true?
- Who am I if it is not true?
More than we realize, believing in negative or limiting self-concepts prevents us from responsibility for our own freedom. We get some safety out of it even if it causes us pain.
And this pain may cause us to not care how we get what we want. We belittle ourselves when we hurt and manipulate others to get to an end we don’t believe we can or should access. We degrade ourselves when we steal from each other. And, more often than not, end up with much less than our deepest and most profound dreams would have delivered to us if only we had engaged The Self in the choices we made.
Spirit and Desire, Rational and Emotional. In union these make The Self in truth.
Continued Good Luck on The Quest! xxo